Monday, October 10, 2011
The Big Secret--how I get so much stuff done in a day
I wake up, usually in the morning, when my toddler tells me I have to. We cosleep, so he's right there to let me know that it is time to be let out of the room. He still nurses and is a fairly heavy night-nurser, so having him sleep with me is a major time saver, as well as being sweet and snuggly. I grudgingly wake up, usually around 11am, and get some breakfast. I think cold cereal is gross, so I almost always have a hot breakfast: eggs, sausage, & toast; waffles; pancakes; oatmeal; occasionally the baked treat such as muffins or coffee cake. While I'm eating, I do my morning computer stuff: checking email, the weather report for the day, my blog stats, and Facebook. When I'm done eating, I glance at my to-do list for the day, select an appropriate outfit for the day, and hop in the shower.
The shower is my main strategizing session for the day. I let my mind wander and let my the goals for the day percolate in my brain as much as I can. Of course, since I have a toddler and toddlers don't understand the concept of "mommy is unavailable right now", this is usually done with him in the tub with me, since he follows me in and takes off his pajamas even if he's not invited, which makes thinking more difficult. Fortunately (for the task at hand), he doesn't talk much, so I usually get some good ideas on how to do what I need to do most efficiently. After the shower, I get dressed, brush my hair and teeth, and get started with what I need to do.
Usually around this time, either while I'm in the shower or shortly after, my 6 year old will wake up, around noon or so. I make sure he eats something and start pester him to do his schoolwork. I put together packets of worksheets for him to do, usually doing the whole week's worth at one time, and leave one packet and any materials he needs like crayons or pencils on the table for him to find if I'm in the shower when he gets up. Of course, he ignores his work until I get on him about it.... Anyway, he has to have his worksheets done before he can play with friends, so he makes sure to have them done before his friends get out of school. While he's working on his schoolwork, I start doing something else nearby, so I can answer questions and teach him the new skills if there are any that day, with very little interruption of getting done what I need to do. When he's done with his worksheets for the day, he empties the dishwasher, then he's free to do what he wants (within the boundaries of our rules) for the rest of the day, unless he has soccer practice that evening.
Meanwhile, I plug along on my list for the day, giving greatest priority to things that have to be done right away because the food the project involves will go bad, because the weather says so, or because I need to do something before I can get to the project I really need/want to do that day. As I get something done, I cross it off my to-do list, maybe take a quick second to see if anything interesting is going on in computer-land (note: I don't sit down to do this. That would be a productivity killer. I keep my netbook on the kitchen counter and do just a quick check-in while standing up, so I don't get sucked into non-productive land).
About an hour or two before dinner needs to be on the table, usually as determined by when my husband has to be to work that night, I seriously think about getting started with dinner. If the toddler takes a nap, I try to do this while he's sleeping. If his nap is a long time before dinner, I'll still get as much prep work done as possible so I'm not trying to do it all with a clingy toddler on me, melting down. I like to give myself way more time than needed to make dinner to deal with the inevitable eighty-million interruptions.
I try to get everyone around the table for dinner as often as possible, especially since that is the primary time the kids get to interact with their dad, since he sleeps during the day and works at night, as well as going to school online, which occupies much of his awake time at home.
After dinner, if my husband has to be into work "early", 7-8pm, I usually try (note the keyword there: try) to get the kids to help me with housework, if it is something that they could/should be involved in, like cleaning up after themselves, or something they like to do like laundry. I do a load of laundry, minimum, a day, but I don't always get around to folding it every day. Other times, it is stuff I need to do myself, like dishes or vacuuming, so the kids play or read ("read"?) or whatever (okay, they usually are watching television by this time in the evening. I admit it, they watch way too much television and I hate it.).
On days my husband doesn't have to be in to work until 10pm, we eat dinner at 9pm, then it is time to settle down for the evening, usually meaning dinner, bath, bed. In theory. In practice, I usually try to get them to calm down and go to bed for a while, then get frustrated because they aren't going to bed like I want them to and are still bouncing off the walls, so I'll retreat to doing something productive like folding laundry or writing while watching the 10 o'clock news, until they seem calmer and I try again. Or until I get really irritated because it is getting so late and they aren't in bed yet and I am ready for some quiet time! Either way, eventually, they end up settled down and trying to go to sleep. Both the 4 year old and 6 year old refuse to sleep in their room at the other end of the house ("Mom, it is too scary down there!" *sigh*), so they end up on the floor of my room (how this is better than the nice, comfy beds in their room, I don't know, but they insist it is!) and eventually, usually around midnight for the toddler, 1am for the 4 year old, and 2 or 3am for my 6 year old, they go to sleep.
Finally, I get some mommy-me-time. Sometimes. Sometimes there is a project I need to wrap up, or something like dishes that can't wait until morning, or I still need to put together the morning's blog post (big secret: I'm not really awake when these things publish at 7am Eastern time). After everything is done that I need to do for the night, I try to read a little to relax before bed, but sometimes that doesn't even happen. I try to make it to bed no later than 3 or 4am every night. (See why we aren't morning people?)
So, in summery, it may not be a typical schedule, it certainly wouldn't work if the kids went to school, but with my husband's schedule of working nights and the kids (seemed) and my natural rhythms of going to bed and getting up very late by normal standards, it works exceptionally well for us. I think that is a big part of why I'm able to stay on task and do as many things as I do each day, because I'm not exhausted from trying to fit a time-mold that doesn't work for my body. As a kid and young adult, when I had to get up and be somewhere by a certain time each morning, I was dragging all the time, not able to focus as much, and would revert to a later schedule, identical to my current one (except I might have slept into the afternoon more then to get rid of a sleep deficit...and because I didn't have kids to wake me up!), every vacation I had!
Another thing that I know enables me to do a lot more than most people (apparently anyway, from what other people tell me) is that I don't sit. I sit for breakfast (and do my computer stuff), dinner (time spent with the family), and to complete specific tasks on the computer, whether it be writing, organizing homeschool stuff, taking surveys for money, or what-have-you. I never just sit and watch television. I watch much less television than most people, usually just watching the news and fake news (The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and The Colbert Report), very rarely maybe a movie or a documentary that strikes my fancy. When I do watch television, I'm always doing something else at the same time, like folding laundry, making dinner, or completing aforementioned computer tasks.\
So that's it. That's the big secret of how I get stuff done....even though somehow it never seems to be enough. Now that I've gotten my computer stuff done for the night, it is time for me to sign off, finish washing the laundry I'm doing right now, and maybe read for a while. I'll see people's reactions to this post, and anything else I've put out there, in the morning. Good night!
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Hehehe... at one time I had a schedule similar to yours. :) My 'wusband' worked late nights and if he was going to see our kid, that was the only choice. But even though I'm a late person, I really want the kids in bed by 8pm, latest. Last night I managed to get them in and settled by 7:45pm, which makes me VERY happy.ReplyDelete
With our kids in public school (today's their first day at the new school in the new district!!), they're up and out by now. We're up at 7am, getting them dressed and fed. I make the kids pick out clothing the night before, load their backpacks with everything but snacks, and basically have it so that if I really had to I could pour their still sleeping bodies into the vehicle. It's not something that happens, though. They're morning people, happy to be up and going at 7am most times.
While they're at school, I do whatever. Eventually I'll be working on my books again (I have two in the works) but right now I'm working on unpacking, assembling, and putting away for the most part. My morning, though, starts with computer and coffee. I'm really grumpy if I don't get morning caffeine. :)
I used to be a night person, but after my second/third pregnancies (they were back-to-back so I lump them together), my circadian rhythm shifted. I'm told this is common, though I don't know anyone else by my own female family members that this happened to.ReplyDelete
Anyway, now I'm up at the crack of dawn, every day. In the middle of summer, when dawn occurs at five in the morning, I usually shove a pillow over my head and try to sleep in until seven at least, but it usually doesn't work. Even light-blocking curtains don't help...I've tried. It seems my body just recognizes when the sun is up and insists on being up too.
This is particularly annoying in the winter months too, when the sun doesn't appear until after the kids are in school.
Hey I'm with you!ReplyDelete
My hubby and I never have been able to keep the same hours as the rest of the world.. just forced ourselves when we were working in corporate America, to the detriment of our health. Now we stay up till 4 or 5 in the morning, and get up anywhere from 11 am to 3 or so pm usually, and feel better for it! It works for us. But my whole family tries to lay guilt trips on us. It plays havoc whenever we have to visit or share vacations with them, etc.
I do a blog too, and my best thinking is when no one else is around and it's quiet. That means late at night. The gardening usually gets done around 6 or 7 in the evening.
Keep up the good work!
You mean you aren't secretly wonder woman? You could save on a Halloween costume *wink*ReplyDelete
I am a night person as is my husband. He actually gets to work 5pm to 1am with his security detail right now. I get the never ending schedule of doom-my shifts flip around from open to close and midshift every other day.
Which leaves me tired and in need of a nap trying to make jam after work. Or staying up until 5am to make a batch only to catch a couple hours of sleep and head out to work.
When the husband and I were still dating we worked the closing shift at McDs and loved it. 4pm to midnight/1am was perfect. Only problem is getting "normal" things like banking done during
normal" business hours.
I don't open the computer or turn on the TV if I want to get things done alot. And I put the dogs up...